A saga of three weddings
The first wedding between
Thomas Raffill and
took place on July 14, 2000 at Gangadhar Deshmukh Hall, Chembur,
Bombay. This was a religious ceremony in the Tamil style, and lasted one
and a half days. We have photos, a video and a movie of the wedding in
.mpeg format. We hope to have photos up here soon, but if you would like
us to make the .mpeg file also available, please let
After we returned to the US, we had a civil ceremony at the
County Clerk's office
in Santa Cruz, California. This was because we didn't really have
a marriage certificate from the big marriage in India (although we
did have over 100 photos), and we didn't have the time and energy
to plan a big wedding in the US just yet. Our witnesses were
Alison(Hong) Luo and
Ahmed Amer. My
an interested spectator. Here are some photos of the event
from Alison's digital camera (
After the ceremony,
We hope to have a third wedding, again in the US, for the friends and
family who are here. Currently, we are thinking of holding this on the
anniversary of the first wedding for the following reasons:
us know what you think of this idea.
Of course, for those of you who are still curious about our life together,
here's our very own FAQ.
- It's our first anniversary.
- It will be summer then and we can think of an outdoor ceremony.
- Most important, it will give us enough time to plan.
Have more questions? Drop either Tom
or Shankari a line.
- Q: How did you meet?
A: We were in the same class, CMPS 240 (Artificial Intelligence)
together. Then we took a trip to India together in between nursing each other
through various vissictudes, and we realized that we had feelings deeper and
warmer than those of ordinary friendship.
- Q: Where will the ceremony be?
A: We will first have a traditional Indian wedding in Bombay. My parents said they've booked the
hall, but we are not sure where. Based on prior experience, though, it
will probably be Gangadhar Deshmukh Hall, Chembur, Bombay. We will also have a
ceremony in the US for our friends here, but that would probably be in
- Q: What colours will you wear during the ceremony?
A: Since we will be getting married in a traditional South
Indian ceremony, Shankari will be wearing red (the traditional colour of
prosperity in India) and Tom will be wearing white. Since this is a South
Indian wedding, Shankari will not be wearing a lehenga as DDLJK and HAHK have made popular, but a
- Q: Is the woman wearing the red scarf at the photo of the
orgy Tom's sister? And just what are you celebrating anyway?
A: Although the picture shows many trappings of a Babylonian orgy,
it is actually a sober celebration of Tom's birthday. The tall green bottle
contains apple cider, in deference to my being teatotal. The food is
mainly vegetarian - mashed potatoes, bread, beans and salad. I think Habu
and Lichun got some Mongolian beef too, but I'm not sure. Tom baked his
own cake, but the rest of us got most of the other food.
The woman is a friend
of ours called
Haburina Bao. Her
husband is a fellow student
in the Computer Science Department at UCSC.